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Hi Everyone,

Well today was the first day of the change in my life.

I always though i was a cute girl, not a model ( i wish) but just cute, i dont see that now in my voluptuous face and body. I dont even reacognize the person see in the mirror. its just not me anymore. Why did i not see this happening. I look in the mirror everyday.

In three months we go to fiji (Bikini central ) and  March next year my husband has asked me to renew our vows in noumea (another bikini central, gulten for punishment huh). I am at the heaviest i have EVER been in my life. I came across the "wInners do what losers don't "book and have made the internet commitment to make sure i keep on track. I have been on W/W with a friend, and did lose weight, however when she left i managed by myself for several more weeks then gave up because no one spoke to me and i didnt have the balls to carry on alone.

I have friends who do often talk about doing someting fitness wise, but again its all talk and no one takes the action to do anything. I now have realiased that i am responsible for my weight gain ( No one force fed me crap ) and now realiase that i am also responsible for losing the extra weight and should not let someone else's lack of commitment to interfere with mine. ( I have my bestfriend who is also my neighbour who has decided this is it too for her) she doesnt know it yet but she will become my walking buddy.

Today i've made the first step and started to read the book, and my husband and i took my three year old daugter to the park and she tired me out running and chasing monsters and fairies in the trees.

 BACKGROUND on ME

I'm 32 years old, married to a wonderful man and have a 3 year old daughter named Amber ( Light of mine and my husbands life). I had a bad fall years ago and hurt my lower back, badly ,before then i was quite active. I slowly gained weight because of the injury and then became preganant and didnt lose the pregnacy weight (carring my daughter was a bit hard ) and then as the fat train continued on its journey i jumped on it with the golden ticket of weght gain. We 've been out to dinner with friends and usually i'm not at all self conscious but i started to pull my shirt when i sat down. It finally hit home with me when I no anyone else, but ME made a fat comment about my weight to my husband about being a FATTY. WOW....HUH..still shocked at myself . You know if anyone said that to my face i would have knocked them out ( Please note i am not a violent person) or ripped there head off verbally. In writing this i feel like crying [:'(] , but i know this is the step off the train and on the road to sucess. Thats a great saying

Get off the fat train and start walking your way to a better you

I eat pretty well, i think my problem is portion size and NO exercise, I LOVE salads and vegies and fruit, i get very grumpy if i dont have them. i do have treats but possible too much so i will read the book and take note.

Long Term Goals

I need to lose at least 20-25 Kilo's (not by christmas or by march) at least half by then hopefully ?

I would like to get pregnant again ( we have been trying for a while )

I need to look scandalous in a bikini

I want my wedding pictures the second time to be the ones i am proud of ( the first one weren't so great )

So today everyone who read's i make a commitment with you that i will do the best i can every day to keep my life back on track.

Wish me luck

I'm very excited. Today was great. tomorrow will be even better.

Love to all,

Kindest Regards

Destiny

Hi Destiny,

Welcome

Being fairly new to this myself I know all too well how hard it is to make that first step, admitting that maybe it's time you really started doing something for yourself.  My weight gain got really out of control.  I have 3 kids and after my third pragnancy I was at the heaviest I'd ever been.  It was my husband who finally woke me up to the fact that I needed to do something when he started going out with friends instead of taking me.  No babysitter was always a great excuse for me to stay home.  At the time I had very little self esteem so staying home was always appealing to me.  I hit the pavement and started walking 10km every day.  I lost 10kg but I've come to a standstill, hence my joining the forum.  Since joining 4 weeks ago I have lost 2kg and loving it.

Since losing a bit of weight I have gained so much self esteem back and loads of confidence.  When I started working I wouldn't talk to any body, now everyone continually tells me to shut up.  I walk around with my chin up and smile at people now instead of looking at the floor.  I'm loving the new me

This forem has been great support for me, its given me motivation and a new determination I didn't think I was capable of.

So with all that being said all that is left to say is GOOD LUCK!!!!

Take Care, Anna

Hi Destiny,

Welcome to FOH and best of luck with your weightloss endeavours.

Hi Destiny, welcome to the forum, nice to meet you!

I have Ray's book, and think it is great. I hope you find it a useful tool in your journey!!!

Take care, great to have you here! 

Hi Destiny,

Welcome.  Reading your post reminded me of me.  Always got comments like wow you have such a pretty face.  Basically a cute girl in a fat body.  Now I don't even get those comments.

Went to WW with my mum and lost 30 kgs then she stopped and after a few weeks so did I.  Now 10 years later I have put that weight back on plus more and have severe muscle problems in my back.

I believe the first step is admitting you have a problem and approaching a plan with a positive attitude and you have that, so good luck

Well - Progress report.

 It has been pretty good, i find the afternoons quite hard, thats when i really want something sweet because i know i cant have it. Im quite proud of myself exercise wise have been doing alot and when i can't get out i dance in the lounge with my daughter. As long as im moving everyday is my only option. And she LOVES it.

I feel better already.

Thanks to everyone who has replied. I feel very welcome and its good to hear that there are other people going through it too. Any tips are welcome so please feel free to give us advise.

 Thanks

Destiny ( A skinny in the making )